order to get to know oneself,
a person needs to be alone with
or her thoughts now and then.
To love solitude and
to seek it does not mean constantly traveling from one
geographical possibility to another. A person becomes a
solitary at the moment when, no matter what may be one's external
surroundings, one is suddenly aware of one's own inalienable
solitude and sees that he or she will never be anything but
solitary. From that moment, solitude is not potential--it is
only in solitude that men and women can come to know the happiness
that is like the delight of children in nothing at
all. -John Cowper Powys
live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and
private: and therefore starved for meditation and true
Lewis, The Weight of Glory
into oneself to find purpose can be like straddling a boat leaving
the dock; pulled in opposite directions by the intense desire of
the mind for human involvement and the equally intense need of the
soul for its own company. In the sheer immensity of
solitude, when one can no longer draw energy from external
sources, we come to see how much of what we habitually call
meaningful purpose is merely the evasion of sitting still and
meeting what is most difficult for us to receive with
compassion--our own pain. -Dawna
Markova, I Will Not Die an Unlived Life
love being by myself. And as I grow older, I love that more
than anything else. There are so many things to think about
and work out. -Gwendolyn Brooks
alone gives us the space to listen again to our inner rhythms, to
embrace our inner selves. -Patricia
Grant me the ability to be alone; may it be
my way every day
to go outdoors among the trees and grasses,
among all growing things, and there may I be alone,
to talk with the one that I belong to.
-Rabbi Nachman of Bratzlav
solitary is being alone well; being alone luxuriously
in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your
own presence rather than the absence of others.
is in deep solitude that I find the gentleness with which
I can truly love my brothers and sisters. The more solitary
I am the more affection I have for them. . . . Solitude
and silence teach me to love my brothers and sisters
for what they are, not for what they say.
If only you were
willing to continue on your journey towards your Self.
Eventually you would reach close enough to the center of
your Being so that the
feeling of loneliness disappears and is replaced by a sense
of aloneness, which
is incredibly full and enriching. When you are on the
way to alone but you are
not yet there, you will feel lonely. If you keep
you will reach to alone and then loneliness disappears.
make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch
with your soul.
To do this, you need to experience solitude, because
in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.
Solitude is not to be found in
It can be had even in towns
and the thick of worldly population.
It would do the world good if
every person in it would compel themselves
occasionally to be absolutely alone. Most of
the world's progress has come out of such
loneliness. -Bruce Barton
Settle yourself in solitude, and
come upon God in yourself.
-Teresa de Avila
is not out to deceive anyone; it does not pretend or
it has nothing to hide and invents nothing. It is
completely naked and
without adornment; it knows nothing of shows or the applause
poisons the mind. It has God as sole witness of its
life and actions. -Petrarch
everyone knows how to be alone with others, how to share
We have to help each other to understand how to be in our
so that we can relate to each other without grabbing on to
We can be interdependent but not dependent. Loneliness
rejected dependency. Solitude is shared
there is a quality to being alone that is incredibly
Life rushes back into the void, richer, more vivid, fuller
It is as if in parting one did actually lose an arm.
like the starfish, one grows it anew; one is whole again,
round--more whole, even, than before, when other people had
pieces of one. -Anne
solitude is an attitude, an attitude of gratitude. It
a state of mind, a state of heart, a whole universe unto
The early contemplatives in all traditions knew this secret
of happiness. -Francine
choice of solitude
is not so much a rejection
recognition that certain
experiences and truths
are so alien
that the individual
to experience them. -Carol
The awareness we experience in solitude is
priceless for the peace it can give.It is also the key to true loving in our
relationships.When we have a part of ourselves that is firm, confident, and
alone, we donít need another person to fill us.We know that we have private spaces full of goodness and
self-worth, and we grant the same to those we love.We do not try to pry into every corner of their lives or to
fill the emptiness inside us with their presence. As
always, look at the world around you. The mountain is
not restless in its aloneness. The hawk tracing
circles in the sky is not longing for union with the
sun. They exist in the perfect peace of an eternal
present, and that is the peace that one finds only in
solitude. Find this peace in yourself, and you will
never know another moment of loneliness in your life.
find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time.
To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome
and dissipating. I never found the companion that was
so companionable as solitude. I am for the most part
when I go abroad among people than when I stay in my
Solitude is the nurse of
and enthusiasm is the parent of genius.
Solitude is a discipline,
essential for those
who would acquaint themselves with God
and be at peace. -E. Herman
can become your most meaningful companion and it can assist
you in being a more giving person in your spiritual
than regarding your partner's need for time alone as a
threat, see it as
a time of renewal that you celebrate. Make every
effort to help each
other have that space. Treat that space as sacred.
The insight we gain from solitude has very
little to do with
the amount of time we spend alone. It has a lot more
with the quality of time we spend with ourselves.
-Jan Johnson Drantell
solitude, love will not stay long by your side.
Because love needs to rest, so that it can journey through
the heavens and reveal itself in other forms.
Without solitude, no plant or animal can survive, no soil
can remain productive, no child can learn about life, no
artist can create, no work can grow and be transformed.
Solitude is not the absence of Love, but its complement.
Solitude is not the absence of company, but the moment
when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide
what to do with our life.
Therefore, blessed are those who do not fear solitude, who
are not afraid of their own company, who are not always
desperately looking for something to do, something to
amuse themselves with, something to judge.
If you are never alone, you cannot know yourself.