If I am walking with two other people, each of
them will serve as my teacher.
I will pick out the good points of the one and imitate them,
and the bad points of the other and correct them in myself.
and hero-worship should not
be confused. Yet we confuse them every day,
and by doing so we come dangerously close to
depriving ourselves of all real models. We lose
sight of the men and women who do not simply
seem great because they are famous but are
famous because they are great. We come closer
and closer to degrading all fame into notoriety.
of the most important people in my life would be shocked
to learn that they were role models. They weren't
or even particularly accomplished. But they had some quality
that I admired, that made me want to be like them.
most important role models in people's lives, it seems,
aren't superstars or household names. They're 'everyday'
people who quietly set examples for you--coaches, teachers,
parents. People about whom you say to yourself, perhaps
not even consciously, 'I want to be like that.'
don't have to know people personally for them to be role models.
Some of my most important role models were historical or literary
that I only read about--never actually met.
|You are the bows from which your children as
living arrows are sent forth.
The young are looking for living models whom they
and who are capable of rousing their enthusiasm and
to a deeper kind of life.
More than anything else, the young need
sure guides to go
with them on the paths of liberation
that God maps out for them.
-Bakole wa Ilunga
have more need
of models than of critics.
attributed to Carolyn Coats)
best way to teach children restraint and generosity is to be
a model of those qualities yourself. If your children see
want a particular item but refrain from buying it, either because
it isnít practical or because you canít afford it, they will
to understand restraint. Likewise, if you donate books or
to charity, take them with you to distribute the items
to teach them about generosity.
|If you as parents cut
corners, your children will too. If you lie,
they will too. If you spend all your money on yourselves and tithe
no portion of it for charities, colleges, churches, synagogues,
civic causes, your children won't either. And if parents
at racial and gender jokes, another generation will pass on
the poison adults still have not had the courage to snuff out.
-Marian Wright Edelman
are in charge of your feelings, beliefs, and actions. And you
teach others how to behave toward you. While you cannot
change other people, you can influence them through your
own behaviors and actions. By being a living role model of
you want to receive from others, you create more of
what you want in your life. -Eric
got to be careful whom you pattern yourself after
because you're likely to become just like them.
or not you have children yourself, you are a parent
to the next generation. If we can only stop thinking of children
as individual property and think of them as the next generation,
then we can realize we all have a role to play.
|Role modeling is the
most basic responsibility of parents.
Parents are handing life's scripts to their children,
scripts that in all likelihood will be acted out
for the rest of the children's lives.
think it's an honor to be a role model to one person
or maybe more than that. If you are given a chance
to be a role model, I think you should always take it
because you can influence a person's life in a positive light,
and that's what I want to do. That's what it's all about.
worry that children never listen to you.
Worry that they are always watching you.
A troubled mother took her daughter to
see Mohandas Gandhi,
who was world-renowned for his great
spiritual discipline. It seems
the young girl had become
addicted to eating sweets, and her mother
wanted Gandhi to speak
to her about this harmful habit and convince
her to drop it.
Upon hearing this request, Gandhi paused in silence
and then told
the mother, "Bring the girl back to me in three weeks
will speak to her then."
Just as she was instructed, the mother returned with her
and Gandhi, as he had promised, spoke to the girl about
effects of eating too many sweets. He
counseled her to give them up.
The mother gratefully thanked Gandhi, but was perplexed.
she asked him, "did you not speak to my
daughter when we first came to you?"
"My good woman," Gandhi replied, "three weeks
I myself was still addicted to sweets!" -unattributed
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It's hard to carry a
child around with you, but fortunately, in most cases, you don't
have to ask a child for directions if you have a well-chosen role
model ready to guide you. This is the next prescription:
Take one role model, as often as needed. Set aside a few
minutes today to fill this prescription so you will have it handy
when you need it. Think now about who your role models have
been. What do they offer? Who else do you admire, and
exactly what do you admire about them? Have your roster of
role models ready and waiting to help you the next time you are
Siegel, Prescriptions for Living
Others see their
possibility in the reality of you. Your message is your life
Since we do not get formal training from
society, we've been relying on the role models in our lives.
But isn't it true that most of us were raised by parents from an
era that put little or no emphasis on human functioning?
Where life management was concerned, people of earlier generations
did get strapped into the cockpit and launched off the runway,
ready or not. If our parents were never trained to be
effective mothers, fathers, spouses, then what kind of role models
could they be? In fact, I submit to you that if you have
been fortunate enough to have positive role models in your life,
you--and they--can thank Providence or blind luck or even trial
and error that they got it right, but it's a safe bet that
training and preparation had nothing to do with it. Simply
put, this means not only that you may lack certain crucial
information, but that the information you do have may be
wrong. -Phil McGraw
The blossom cannot tell what
becomes of its odor, and no person can tell what becomes of his or
her influence and example. -Henry
If you set the right
example, you won't need to worry about the rules.
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Dale Carnegie - Albert Einstein - Ralph
Waldo Emerson - Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross -
Helen Keller - Mother
Teresa - Eleanor Roosevelt
Swett Marden - Albert Schweitzer - Aristotle
Mohandas Gandhi - Wilferd