It takes as much courage to
tried and failed
as it does
to have tried and succeeded.
Don't wish me happiness--I don't expect to be happy.
It's gotten beyond that, somehow. Wish me courage and strength and a
sense of humor--I will need them all.
I do not believe that sheer
suffering teaches. If suffering alone
taught, all the world would be
wise, since everyone suffers.
To suffering must be added mourning,
love, openness and the willingness to remain
|One comes in the end to realize that there is no
and there should not be. It is not
even something to be desired. The pure
relationship is limited, in
space and in time. In its essence it implies exclusion.
excludes the rest of life, other relationships, other sides of
other responsibilities, other possibilities in the
future. It excludes growth.
After all, I don't see why I am
always asking for
private, individual, selfish miracles when every year
there are miracles like white dogwood.
|One cannot collect all the beautiful
shells on the beach.
One can collect only a few, and they are more
beautiful if they are few.
|The only real security is not in
owning or possessing, not in
demanding or expecting, not in hoping,
even. Security in a relationship
lies neither in looking back to what it
was, nor forward to what it might be,
but living in the present and
accepting it as it is now.
| The intellectual is constantly
betrayed by his vanity. Godlike he blandly assumes
that he can express
everything in words; whereas the things one loves,
lives, and dies for
are not, in the last analysis completely expressible in words.
|My passport photo is one of the
most remarkable photographs
I have ever seen - no retouching, no
shadows, no flattery - just stark me.
|I feel we are all islands - in
a common sea.
|For happiness one needs security, but
joy can spring
like a flower even from the cliffs of despair.
church is still a great centering force for men and women, more needed
than ever before. But are those who attend as ready to give
to receive its message as they used to be? Our daily
life does not prepare us
for contemplation. How can a single
weekly hour of church, helpful as it may be,
counteract the many daily
hours of distraction that surround it? If we
had our contemplative
hour at home we might be readier to give ourselves
at church and find
ourselves more completely renewed.
|Only in growth, reform, and
change, paradoxically enough, is true security to be found.
| One can never pay in gratitude:
can only pay 'in kind' somewhere else in life.
|The most exhausting thing
in life is being insincere.
|If you surrender completely to the
moments as they pass,
you live more richly those moments.
|One learns to accept the fact that no
permanent return is possible to an old form of relationship;
and, more deeply still, that there is no holding of a
relationship to a single form. This is not tragedy but
part of the ever-recurrent miracle of life and growth.
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|I believe most people are aware of periods in their lives
when they seem
to be "in grace" and other periods when they
feel "out of grace," even though
they may use different words
to describe these states. In the first happy condition,
one seems to
carry all ones tasks before one lightly, as if borne along on a great
tide; and in the opposite state one can hardly tie a shoe-string. It is
true that a large
part of life consists in learning a technique of tying
the shoe-string, whether one is
in grace or not. But there are
techniques of living too; there are even techniques in
the search for
grace. And techniques can be cultivated. I have learned by some
experience, by many examples, and by the writings of countless others
also occupied in the search, that certain environments,
certain modes of life,
certain rules of conduct are more conducive to
inner and outer harmony than
others. There are, in fact, certain roads
that one may follow.
Simplification of life is one of them.
|When one is a stranger to oneself,
then one is
estranged from others, too.
|To give without any reward, or any
has a special quality of its own.
|Arranging a bowl of flowers in the morning can give
sense of quiet in a crowded day - like writing a poem, or saying a
|Only when one is connected to one's inner
core is one connected to others.
And, for me, the core, the inner
spring, can best be re-found through solitude.
|The shape of my life today starts with a family.
I have a
husband, five children and a home just beyond the suburbs of New York.
have also a craft, writing, and therefore work I want to pursue. The
shape of my life is, of course, determined by many other things; my
background and childhood, my mind and its education, my conscience and
its pressures, my heart and its desires. I want to give and take from my
children and husband, to share with friends and community, to carry out
my obligations to man and to the world, as a woman, as an artist, as a
But I want first of all in fact, as an end to these other desires
to be at peace with myself. I want a singleness of eye, a purity of
intention, a central core to my life that will enable me to carry out
these obligations and activities as well as I can. I want, in fact
to borrow from the languages of the saints to live "in
grace" as much of the time as possible. I am not using this term in
a strictly theological sense. By grace I mean an inner harmony,
essentially spiritual, which can be translated into outward harmony.
am seeking perhaps what Socrates asked for in the prayer from the Phaedrus
when he said, "May the outward and inward man be at one."
would like to achieve a state of inner spiritual grace from which I
could function and give as I was meant to in the eye of God.
Home - About -
- abundance - acceptance
- achievement - action
- adversity - advertising
- aging -
- anger - anticipation
apathy - appreciation -
- art - attitude - authenticity -
autumn - awakening
- awareness -
- balance -
beauty - being yourself - beliefs
body - brooding -
busyness - caring
- celebration - challenges - change
- character - charity
- children -
Christianity - Christmas
commitment - common sense
- community - comparison -
compassion - competition
- complaining -
- conformity -
conscience - contentment
- control - courage -
covetousness - creativity -
criticism - cruelty - death
- determination -
discouragement - diversity - doubt -
dreams - earth -
ego - emotions - encouragement -
enlightenment - enthusiasm
- experience - failure -
faith - fame - family -
fathers - fault-finding
- fear - feelings
- flowers - forgiveness - freedom
- fun - the future - the
garden of life - gardening - generosity -
gentleness - giving
goals - God - goodness -
grace - gratitude -
greed - grief
growing up - guilt - habit
- happiness -
hatred - healing -
health - heart -
helpfulness - home - honesty -
hope - hospitality -
hurry - ideals
idolatry - ignorance
- illusion -
impatience - individuality - inner
child - inspiration -
introspection - intuition - jealousy
journey - joy -
kindness - knowledge - language
- laughter -
law of attraction - laziness -
leadership - learning - letting go -
- love - lying - magic
- marriage -
materialism - meanness -
mindfulness - miracles
- mistakes - mistrust-
moderation - money
mothers - motivation -
mystery - nature - negative attitude -
new year - oneness
- open mindedness - opportunity -
optimism - pain
- parenting - passion
the past - patience - peace -
perfectionism - perseverance -
pessimism - play - poetry
positive thinking - possessions -
potential - power
praise - prayer
- prejudice -
the present moment - pride -
principle - problems - progress
- prosperity - purpose -
reading - recreation
relationships - religion - resentment - respect
responsibility - rest -
revenge - risk - role models -
running - ruts - sadness -
safety - the seasons of life
self - self-love -
self-pity - self-reliance
- service -
shame - silence - simplicity -
slowing down - smiles -
solitude - sorrow - spirit - spring
success - suffering
- summer - talent
- the tapestry of
- teachers -
- thoughts - time -
today - tolerance
- tradition - trees
truth - values - vanity -
vulnerability - walking
- war - wealth - weight - winter -
wisdom - women -
- work - worry -
worship - youth -
Dale Carnegie - Albert Einstein - Ralph
Waldo Emerson - Anne Morrow Lindbergh
- Elisabeth Kuebler-Ross
Helen Keller - Mother
Teresa - Eleanor Roosevelt - Orison
Swett Marden - Albert Schweitzer - Aristotle
Mohandas Gandhi - Wilferd