we see that everything is impermanent and ungraspable
and that we create a huge amount of suffering if we are
attached to things staying the same, we realize that
relaxing and letting go is a wiser way to live.
go does not mean not caring about things. It means
caring about them in a flexible and wise way.
fear is even stronger when
we think we are responsible
for others--our children,
for example. We want
to spare them pain, and
so we forget to listen to
the Sound of Creation.
No one learns from
someone else's mistake.
If we respect others, we
must recognize that they
have a right to their own
dance. Their own spirits
will guide them.
harder you fight to hold on to specific assumptions,
the more likely there's gold in letting go of them.
We find by losing. We hold fast
by letting go.
We become something
by ceasing to be something
to be close to the heart
I know no more now
than I ever did about the far side
death as the last letting-go of all,
but now I know that
I do not need
to know, and that I do not need
to be afraid
of not knowing.
knows. That is
all that matters.
|We must learn to let go, to give up,
to make room for the things we have prayed for and
time you let go of something limiting,
you create space for something better.
-Stephen C. Paul
the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away
inviting them to stay or desiring them never to
depart. If your heart can be
like this, you will be near to the way.
wears one's mind out in study, and yet has more mind
with which to study. One gives away one's heart in
and yet has more heart to give away. One perishes out
for a suffering world, and is stronger therefore. So,
too, it is possible
at one and the same time to hold on to life and let go.
|You don't realize that if you stop looking
backwards craving the love and
acceptance which you didn't receive from your parents, then
open your eyes to what is available for you now. But
you won't let go.
If only you could see that looking back into an incomplete
past, with regret, blame, guilt or resentment is keeping you
from the treasures
that await you here now. The past has gone. You
something that is no longer with you.
greatest thing is, at any moment, to be willing
to give up who we are in order to become all that we can be.
-Max De Pree
|Today I am amazed at the things our children have
done and their
wide range of interests.
They are all living their lives and not the
would have planned for them.
But I have learned that their
lives are theirs, not
mine, and in living their own lives they have
experiences and an education I would never have had if
been fool enough to make them do what I thought they should
do. -Bernie Siegel
go. Why do you cling to pain? There is nothing
you can do about the wrongs of yesterday. It is
not yours to judge. Why hold on to the very thing
which keeps you from hope and love?
|The clouds above us come together and
The breeze in the courtyard departs and returns.
Life is like that, so why not relax?
Who can keep us from celebrating?
believe that it is difficult to let go, but in truth, it is
much more difficult
and painful to hold and protect. Reflect upon anything
in your life that you
grasp hold of--an opinion, a historical resentment, an
ambition, or an unfulfilled
fantasy. Sense the tightness, fear, and defensiveness
that surrounds the
grasping. It is a painful, anxious experience of
unhappiness. We do not
let go in order to make ourselves impoverished or bereft.
We let go in order to discover happiness and peace.
are things that we never want to let go of, people we
never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that
letting go isnít the end of the world; itís the
beginning of a new life.
must be willing to let go of the life we have planned,
so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.
go doesn't mean we don't care. Letting go doesn't mean
we shut down.
Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make
It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for
It means we stop trying to do the impossible--controlling
we cannot--and instead, focus on what is possible--which
taking care of ourselves. And we do this in
and love, as much as possible.
|The Tao Te
Ching says, When I let go of what I am,
I become what I might be. When I let go of what I
I receive what I need. Have you ever struggled to find
work or love, only to find them after you have given up?
This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order
to achieve. Letting go is God's law.
-Mary Manin Morrissey
The only things we can keep are the things we
freely give to God.
What we try to keep for ourselves is just what we are sure
to lose. -C.S. Lewis
father once told me of a trick question he used in a college
on forest fire control. If there was a fire coming
from a certain
direction and wind was coming from another, what was the
thing to do? The right answer was, "Run like hell
for rain," but few students ever got it. So allow
freedom of knowing there are times to bail out, quit, run,
leave the struggle, and have more time for joy.
I started to picture the trees in the storm,
the answer began to dawn on me. The trees in the
storm don't try to stand up straight and tall and
erect. They allow themselves to bend and be blown
with the wind. They understand the power of
letting go. Those trees and those branches that
try too hard to stand up strong and straight are
the ones that break. Now is not the time for you
to be strong, Julia, or you, too, will break.
an important difference between giving up and letting go.
People have a hard time letting go of their
Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is
familiar. -Thich Nhat Hanh
hold fast by letting go." Letting go of our
to control things, our attempts to maintain control over
every aspect of our life. We've all heard the saying
about if we love something, we should let it go, and then
we'll know whether it "belongs" to us when we see
whether it comes back to us. So much of our discontent
and our dissatisfaction comes from our unwillingness
to let go of trying to control things and trying to
cause just the results that we think should occur.
Healthy mysticism praises acts of letting go,
of being emptied, of getting
in touch with the space inside and expanding this until it
merges with the
space outside. Space meeting space; empty pouring into
happen from that encounter with emptiness, nothingness. . .
. Let us not
fight emptiness and nothingness, but allow it to penetrate
us even as we penetrate it.
surrender my anxiety and my sense of urgency. I allow
God to guide me
in the pacing of my life. I open my heart to God's
timing. I release my deadlines,
agendas, and stridency to the gentle yet often swift pacing
of God. As I open
my heart to God's unfoldings, my heart attains peace.
As I relax into God's timing,
my heart contains comfort. As I allow God to set the
tone and schedule of my days,
I find myself in the right time and place, open and
available to God's opportunities.
let go isn't to forget, not to think about, or ignore.
leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting
go isn't about
winning or losing. It's not about pride and it's not
about how you
appear, and it's not obsessing or dwelling on the
past. Letting go
isn't blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and it
emptiness, hurt, or sadness. It's not about giving in
or giving up.
Letting go isn't about loss and it's not about defeat.
To let go is
to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on.
It is having
an open mind and confidence in the future. Letting go
and experiencing and growing. To let go is to be
thankful for the
experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you
It's about all that you have, all that you had, and all that
soon gain. Letting go is having the courage to accept
and the strength to keep moving. Letting go is growing
up. It is
realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent
To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself
hang on to the past hoping for what
should have been but still isn't and
never will be until you let go!
the end these things matter most:
How well did you love?
How fully did you love?
How deeply did you learn to let go?
need in love to practice only this: letting each other
For holding on comes easily--we do not need to learn it.
Robert Paul Gilles
"let go" does not mean to stop caring.
It means I can't do it for someone else.
"let go" is not to cut myself off.
It's the realization that I can't control another.
"let go" is to admit powerlessness,
which means the
outcome is not in my hands.
"let go" is not to try to change or blame another.
It's to make the most of myself.
"let go" is not to care for, but to care about.
"let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive.
"let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a
"let go" is not to be in the middle, arranging all the
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
"let go" is not to deny, but to accept.
"let go" is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
"let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
"let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live
for the future.
"let go" is to fear less and to love more.
(from his book Thoughts of the dreampoet : vol. 1.)
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|Let go a
little to have a little peace. Let go a lot to have a lot of
peace. -Achaan Chah
|Are you holding on to
something in your past? Why not totally let go?
Letting go is difficult. We resist change and want to hold
on to the past. We are afraid of the unknown. Yet
impermanence is a truth of life. Change is a natural
rhythm. -Susan Santucci
to let go should be learned before learning to get. Life
should be touched, not strangled. Youíve got to relax, let
it happen at times, and at others move forward with
it. -Ray Bradbury
go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore.
It's just realizing that the only person you really have control
over is yourself. -Deborah Reber, Chicken
Soup for the Teenage Soul
let go means to give up coercing, resisting, or struggling, in
exchange for something more powerful and wholesome which comes out
of allowing things to be as they are without getting caught up in
your attraction to or rejection of them, in the intrinsic
stickiness of wanting, of liking and
You Go, There You Are
|The more you
let go the more you accomplish. -Stephen
C. Paul, Inneractions
examining our own lives, we might be able to spot the heavy weight
of yesterday's deeds that we persist in carrying around with us.
We might be carrying bitterness and resentment because we may have
felt betrayed by a friend. We might be carrying anger and a
feeling of injustice because we lost out on something we really
wanted while someone else got it. We might be carrying hurt
feelings because someone we liked criticized us. But
continuing to carry harsh and negative feelings from the past can
be like picking up a pebble in your shoe while you are out
walking. You can stop and remove the pebble, or you can
continue to walk and let the pebble irritate your foot and cause
pain. The choice is yours. You can release your anger
and hurt feelings, just as you can remove the pebble from your
Marks Templeton, Worldwide Laws of Life
|Periods of change are full of
paradoxes. They're difficult but exciting, frightening but
freeing. Letting go of old patterns that no longer work for
us is exhilarating. -Sue
and the release of the past open the creative flow of life,
supporting all levels of mind, heart, body, emotion, and spirit.
This energy flow determines the state of our health, our desire to
create and procreate, our willingness to develop our gifts, and
how we use or deny the life force that we are given as human
beings. . . . by choosing to let go of the past, our fears, and
our negative patterns or reactions to life, we are suddenly funded
with a resurgence of life force, which propels us into a newfound
way of being and a very different way of understanding the
world. -Jamie Sams
|Does anything in nature
despair except man? An animal with a foot caught in a trap does
not seem to despair. It is too busy trying to survive. It is all
closed in, to a kind of still, intense waiting. Is this a key?
Keep busy with survival. Imitate the trees. Learn to lose in
order to recover, and remember that nothing stays the same for
long, not even pain, psychic pain. Sit it out. Let it all pass.
Let it go. -May Sarton, Journal of a
have come to look upon life as a conflict with death--the
intruding enemy, not the natural ending--in impotent quarrel with
which we spend every stage of it. When the time comes for
youth to depart, we would hold it back by main force. When
the fervor of desire slackens, we would revive it with fresh fuel
of our own devising. When our sense organs weaken, we urge
them to keep up their efforts. Even when our grip has
relaxed we are reluctant to give up possession. We are not
trained to recognize the inevitable as natural, and so cannot give
up gracefully that which has to go, but needs must wait till it is
snatched from us. The truth comes as conqueror only because
we have lost the art of receiving it as
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