Friendship 2    

Quotes for
the Journey:


I didn't find my friends; the
good God gave them to me.

Ralph Waldo Emerson


Friends are an aid to the young, to guard them from error; to the elderly, to attend to their wants and to supplement their failing power of action; to those in the prime of life, to assist them to noble deeds.       -Aristotle


So long as we love, we serve; so long as we are loved by others, I should say that we are almost indispensable; and no person is useless while he or she has friends.       -Robert Louis Stevenson

Friendship is the source of the greatest pleasures, and without friends even the most agreeable pursuits become tedious.       -Saint Thomas Aquinas
Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become.      -Oliver Wendell Holmes

Blessed are they who have the gift of making friends, for it is one of God's best gifts.  It involves many things, but above all, the power of going out of one's self, and appreciating whatever is noble and loving in another.        -Thomas Hughes


Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.  True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.       -George Washington

I am treating you as my friend, asking you to share my present minuses in the hope I can ask you to share my future pluses.        -Katherine Mansfield
The only service a friend can really render is to keep up your courage by holding up to you a mirror in which you can see a noble image of yourself.        -George Bernard Shaw
I want a warm and faithful friend,
To cheer the adverse hour;
Who ne'er to flatter will descend,
Nor bend the knee to power,--
A friend to chide me when I'm wrong,
My inmost soul to see;
And that my friendship prove as strong
For him as his for me.

John Quincy Adams
Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person; having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away.       -George Eliot
We take care of our health, we lay up money, we make our room tight, and our clothing sufficient; but who provides wisely that they shall not be wanting in the best property of all--friends?       -Ralph Waldo Emerson

To have a good friend is one of the highest delights of life; to be a good friend is one of the noblest and most difficult undertakings.       -unattributed

I awoke this morning with devout thanksgiving for my friends, the old and the new.  Shall I not call God, the beautiful, who daily showeth himself so to me in his gifts.       -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Good friendships are fragile things and require as much care as any other fragile and precious thing.       -Randolph Bourne

Silences make the real conversations between friends.  Not the saying but the never needing to say is what counts.        -Margaret Lee Runbeck


Of all the gifts that wise Providence grants us to make life full and happy, friendship is the most beautiful.

The reward of friendship is itself.  The person who hopes for anything else does not understand what true friendship is.       -Alfred of Rievaulx
Once I was very sick.  It was clear that the cure for this illness was in my own hands.  However, it involved two things that I found most difficult to do--exercise and good diet.  Most of the people I knew, aware of my detestation for broccoli and walking, never mentioned these hateful things.  Two of my closest friends, however, were really pests. "Good food, good food, walk, walk, walk."  I would have like to have killed them.  But, and this is the point, which of these were my real friends--those who were so nice that they never mentioned the hateful remedies or those who so loved my life that they made me miserable until I changed my ways?       -Edward Lavin
If friendship is firmly established between two hearts, they do not need to exchange news.       -Sa'ib of Tabriz

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By friendship you mean the greatest love, the greatest usefulness, the most open communication, the noblest sufferings, the severest truth, the heartiest counsel, and the greatest union of minds of which brave men and women are capable.        -Jeremy Taylor
Make new friends, but keep the old;
Those are silver, these are gold.
New-made friendships, like new wine,
Age will mellow and refine.
Friendships that have stood the test--
Time and change--are surely best;
Brow may wrinkle, hair grow gray;
Friendship never knows decay.
For 'mid old friends, tried and true,
Once more we our youth renew.

Joseph Parry
To have a good friend is one of the highest delights of life; to be a good friend is one of the noblest and most difficult undertakings.        -unattributed
My friends have made the story of my life. In a thousand ways they have turned my limitations into beautiful privileges, and enabled me to walk serene and happy in the shadow cast by my deprivation.        -Helen Keller
Without friends no one would choose to live, though they had all other goods.        -Aristotle
Friends are the sunshine of life.        -John Hay

True friends don't sympathize with your weakness; instead they help summon your strength.        -unattributed
Friendship is the highest degree of perfection in society.        -Michel de Montaigne
It's the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.        -Marlene Dietrich
Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.       -Oprah Winfrey
A friend is someone who allows you distance but is never far away.       -Noah ben Shea


The happiest business in all the world
is that of making friends,
And no investment on the street
pays larger dividends,
For life is more than stocks and bonds,
more love than rate percent,
And those who give in friendship's name
shall reap what they have spent.


Love is blind; friendship closes its eyes.        -French proverb
Friendship is a topic that's dear to my heart, for I've always had a great number of problems with the whole concept. When I was young, our family moved regularly (military), so I never really learned how to be a friend on a long-term basis. I never had time to reach any level of comfort or security in a friendship. Add to this the great amount of fear that I have of people, and you get someone who had a very hard time establishing, maintaining, and nurturing friendships. The bottom line was that I didn't ever feel that people wanted to be around me--there was always something better that they'd rather be doing. So I didn't call someone and say "Let's go see a movie," or "Let's go hiking tomorrow." I wanted to, but I never did. So I ended up being alone, wishing I weren't. 

Even now I still carry that fear as a part of me, but I can show my caring in spite of the fear--I haven't gotten rid of it, but usually I'm able to work with it, recognize it, and deal with it on my terms, not its terms.  It's not easy, though--there are still plenty of times when I feel I don't belong, when I feel that people would much rather be with someone else than with me.

But more and more I learn the value of those people who will stand by me through anything, and the value of standing by my friends through anything.  More than anything else, I've learned to lower my expectations of my friends in one important area--I don't need constant affirmation that they consider me to be a friend.  I accept that I am a friend, and I don't need to hear it to believe it.

Still, there are few people whom I would consider to be true friends.  Part of that is due to the type of person I am.  I'm not very extroverted, and I am somewhat guarded in my relations with others.  But I've come to realize that's okay, and that's part of who I am.  I would much rather have few good friends than many superficial friendships.  But I also know now that if I want more friends, it's up to me to make them, and not up to them to come to me and introduce themselves.

If you're like I was and you want to have more friends, pick up the phone, or the next time you're talking to someone you'd like to be friends with, suggest a cup of coffee somewhere or a walk or a hike.  You'd be surprised how many people would like to be your friends, if only you'd let them.  If you're more comfortable with fewer friends, let that be and accept it.  No matter what, it's important that we treat others with the dignity and respect that our best friends deserve, and eventually we'll be able to call every person "friend," whether we know them or not.

tom walsh


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