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Forgiveness 2

The weak can never
forgive.  Forgiveness is the
attribute of the strong.

Mohandas Gandhi


When I feel betrayed by someone, instead of sulking, clinging to my resentment and playing the role of victim, I am challenged to strengthen my soul through forgiveness.  By forgiving the person who hurt me, I strengthen my soul. . . . each time we are called upon to forgive, we nourish our souls and learn more about who we are and what we have to share in this world. This is also an example of unconditional love.       -John Gray

It is very easy to forgive others their mistakes; it takes more grit and gumption to forgive them for having witnessed your own.        -Jessamyn West
If we can forgive everyone, regardless of what he or she may have done, we nourish the soul and allow our whole being to feel good.  To hold a grudge against anyone is like carrying the devil on your shoulders.  It is our willingness to forgive and forget that casts away such a burden and brings light into our hearts, freeing us from many ill feelings against our fellow human beings.
-Sydney Banks
Resentment is the number one offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick.        -Alcoholics Anonymous
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.       -the Buddha

Keeping score of old scores and scars, getting even and one-upping, always make you less than you are.       -Malcolm Forbes
Forgiveness requires more than words.  Words are meaningless unless they are consistent with life actions.  You may say you have forgiven someone, but if you avoid them, grow angry when you are with them, or allow chaos to be part of your relationship, forgiveness is not in your heart.  People read forgiveness in attitudes and responses.  Through your actions, you can tell others you have accepted God's love and forgiven the hurts of your life.
-Elizabeth B. Brown
The vital importance of forgiveness  may not be obvious at first sight, but you may be sure that it is not by chance that every great spiritual teacher from Jesus Christ downward has insisted so strongly upon it.  You must forgive injuries, not just in words, or as a matter of form, but in your heart -- and that is the long and the short of it.  You do this, not for the other person's sake, but for your own sake.  Resentment, condemnation, anger, desire to see someone punished are things that rot your soul.  Such things fasten your troubles to you with rivets.  They fetter you to many other problems that actually have nothing to do with the original grievances themselves.        -Emmet Fox
Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.       -William Arthur Ward
     Ruby stepped toward him. "Edward," she said softly. It was
the first time she had called him by name. "Learn this from me.
Holding anger is a poison.  It eats you from inside.  We think that
hating is a weapon that attacks the person who harmed us.
But hatred is a curved blade.  And the harm we do, we do to ourselves.
     "Forgive, Edward.  Forgive.  Do you remember the lightness
you felt when you first arrived in heaven?"
     Eddie did.  Where is my pain?
     "That's because no one is born with anger. And when we die,
the soul is freed of it. But now, here, in order to move on, you must
understand why you felt what you did, and why you no longer need to feel it."
     She touched his hand.
     "You need to forgive your father."

Mitch Albom
from The Five People You Meet in Heaven

Forgiveness of self is where all forgiveness starts. If I am unable to forgive myself, it is impossible for me to truly forgive others.  And I must forgive others. What I give out is what I receive.  If I want forgiveness, I have to give forgiveness.     -Betty Eadie


True forgiveness will become easier when we learn to empathize and apologize; when we admit we are human too, capable of wrongdoing; when we make allowances for circumstances we may not understand; when we have faith in the basic good of personkind, when we are willing to start again with compassion and without grudges.  The Hebrew word for compassion is derived from rechem, meaning womb.  The inference is a new birth, suggesting a fresh start.  This fresh start brings with it a deeper understanding of the futility of grudges, expectations, and unresolved hate and anger and renews our hope in the power of love.     -Leo Buscaglia, Loving Each Other
Forgiveness is a strange thing.  It can sometimes be easier to forgive our enemies than our friends.  It can be hardest of all to forgive people we love.     -Fred Rogers
To be able to forgive, we must come down from the citadel of pride, from the stronghold of hate and anger, from the high place where all emotions that issue from one's sense of being wronged shout only for vengeance and retaliation.     -John Hess
Love means to love that which is unlovable, or it is no virtue at all; forgiving means to pardon that which is unpardonable, or it is no virtue at all.     -G.K. Chesterton
Forgiveness of others' injuries stamps our spirituality as genuine and authentic.  Not to be forgiving reduces our spirituality to a merely human imitation of the real thing.      -Joseph F. Girzone, Never Alone

Often, we are harder on ourselves than others are.  If we cannot forgive ourselves, how can we forgive other people?  Everyone's lesson is to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, even those things we feel ashamed about, and learn to accept ourselves for who we are, knowing that we can always gently work on making improvements.  For me, the true experience of inner peace began only once I was able to forgive those around me, my parents, and myself.
-Patrick Wanis
Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.       -Oscar Wilde
The moment an individual can accept and forgive him or herself, even a little, is the moment in which he or she becomes to some degree lovable.       -Eugene Kennedy
Forgiveness is an act of love.  As I forgive, I release negative energy that may manifest as resentment or anger.  I open the way for something positive to happen.  If I feel wronged or annoyed, I release the impulse to judge.  The lines of communication remain open, and understanding flows freely.  Relationships with family, friends and colleagues flourish when I act with compassion and easily forgive.  I relate to others in harmonious ways.  I exercise the same forgiving attitude toward myself.  If I have erred, I learn from it and move on.  I draw from the reservoir of God's love within me to give and receive forgiveness.        -unattributed (the Daily Word)
Those that cannot forgive others break the bridge over which they must pass themselves; for every person has need to be forgiven.        -Thomas Fuller
There's no point in burying a hatchet if you're going to put up a marker on the site.       -Sydney Harris
Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime; therefore we must be saved by hope.  Nothing which is true or beautiful or good makes complete sense in any immediate context of history; therefore we must be saved by faith.  Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone; therefore we are saved by love.  No virtuous act is quite as virtuous from the standpoint of our friend or foe as it is from our standpoint.  Therefore we must be saved by the final form of love which is forgiveness.        -Reinhold Niebuhr
How unhappy are they who cannot forgive themselves.        -Publilius Syrus
Forgiveness is at the heart of a healthy and happy life.  Forgiveness protects relationships.  It also protects the person who does the forgiving. Remember the story that psychiatrist and author Robert Coles tells about Ruby, the little girl who integrated a Southern elementary school. Every day the federal marshals had to escort Ruby through a mob of adults who spat at her and called her hateful names.  Remarkably, the five-year-old girl did not seem to be emotionally damaged by the ordeal, a fact that puzzled Cole until he discovered that Ruby prayed every day asking God to forgive her persecutors . . . . Forgiveness is a method for giving love.  It is a way of saying, "I am going to let go of the wrong you did; I am not going to be bitter and I am going to go on loving you anyway."       -Bernie Siegel

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