But human beings are like
that, she thought. We've replaced
nearly all our emotions with
we think about emotion this way--as outside-in, not inside
out--it is possible to understand how some people can have
an enormous amount of influence over others. Some of us,
after all, are very good at expressing emotions and
feelings, which means that we are far more emotionally
contagious than the rest of
us. -Malcolm Gladwell
would never move forward in the face of negative emotion. There
are many people who would teach you otherwise. They say, you've
got to face fear to get over it. And all they do is desensitize
themselves to the point that they get themselves into situations
where they have no idea what's going on, and the end of them comes
rather abruptly. . . And then everyone calls them
the chief source of all becoming-conscious. There can be no transforming
of darkness into light and of apathy into movement without
It is hard
for people to think clearly because their emotional needs keep getting in
the way. The trick is to make thinking clearly an emotional
need. -George Hammond
I don't own
my emotions unless I can think about them. I am not afraid of feeling but
I am afraid of feeling unthinkingly. I don't want to drown. My head is my
heart's lifebelt. -Jeanette Winterson, Gut
and others are stuck in a horrible world where being emotional in any way
counts as being unbalanced, and unable to think clearly. For me, emotions
are thought. -Hofesh Shechter
the proper motions each day and you'll soon begin to feel the
corresponding emotions! -George W. Crane
If you believe everything
you feel is an illusion then you’re delusional. Your emotion is
part you. You’re made with it. Denying it and thinking it is all your
mind, is denying your existence. -Ann Marie
Emotions are like muscles.
Most of them go highly unattended, it's usually the weaker, undefined ones
that cause injury to the rest, and there is most certainly memory response
in play. -Erica Goros
Just like children, emotions
heal when they are heard and validated.
-Jill Bolte Taylor, My Stroke of Insight
If you keep your emotions
locked in a box, then when you want to open it one day you'll find that
How you react emotionally is
a choice in any situation. -Judith Orloff
Lacking a shared language,
emotions are perhaps our most effective means of cross-species
communication. We can share our emotions, we can understand the
language of feelings, and that's why we form deep and enduring social
bonds with many other beings. Emotions are the glue that
binds. -Marc Bekoff, The Emotional Lives
It is one of the great
troubles of life that we cannot have any unmixed emotions. There is
always something in our enemy that we like, and something in our
sweetheart that we dislike. -William Butler
We tend to think of the
rational as a higher order, but it is the emotional that marks our lives.
One often learns more from ten days of agony than from ten years of
contentment. -Merle Shain
any emotion—love for a woman, or grief for a loved one, or what
I’m going through, fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you
hold back on the emotions—if you don’t allow yourself to go
all the way through them—you can never get to being detached,
you’re too busy being afraid. You’re afraid of the pain,
you’re afraid of the grief. You’re afraid of the vulnerability
that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions,
by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even,
you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is.
You know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can
you say, ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I
recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for
a moment.' -Mitch
Albom (quoting Morrie Schwartz), Tuesdays With Morrie
Do not let another day go by
where your dedication to other people's opinions is greater than your
dedication to your own emotions! -Steve
Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
give life texture and depth, but there's an art to managing our
moods. Once we cultivate inner balance we can immerse
ourselves fully in every experience without fear of going
overboard. When we're conversant with our emotions, we learn
to nurture positive feelings and defuse disturbing ones.
-Joan Duncan Oliver, Good Karma
many years of training myself, strong emotions are now a trigger
for me to look at something. I think that all emotions are
triggers for us to grow in our level of consciousness.
emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that
heals it. -Nicholas Sparks, At
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emotions, we become humorless, rigid, and stereotyped; by
repressing them we become literal, reformatory and
holier-than-thou; encouraged, they perfume life; discouraged, they
poison it. -Joseph Collins
more intense forms of feelings. The feeling of sadness may
build into grief, the feeling of irritation can become a fierce
rage. The distinguishing characteristic of emotion is that
it dominates our attention and cannot be ignored, while a feeling
can remain in the background of awareness.
We are all
human beings. We have emotions. Men and women just
express them differently. That is the difference between us.
Women want to talk about their emotions, whereas men want to
privately deal with them and think them
through. -John Gray
you feel yourself in the grip of an emotion such as jealousy or
anger or sorrow, detach yourself from it. Take a step back.
When you do that, you can allow the emotion to run through you
without causing negative thoughts or
actions. -Gary Zukav
emotions are pure which gather you and lift you up; that emotion
is impure which seizes only one side of your being and so distorts
become our own enemy when we are thrown out of balance by anger,
hatred, grief, or any other intense emotion. We are for the
time being obsessed by something alien. -Paramananda
Most relate to the world by
their emotions, which means they know only the unreality of
illusion--this world of emotion is the world of duality, of love
and hate, of joy and sorrow. All emotions are relative to
themselves, and last only as long as the supporting thought is
maintained. -A Spiritual Warrior
the march toward Truth, anger, selfishness, hatred, naturally give
way, for otherwise Truth would be impossible to attain. A
person who is swayed by negative emotions may have good enough
intentions, may be truthful in word, but he or she will never find
the Truth. -Mohandas
do I change?
If I feel depressed I will sing.
If I feel sad I will laugh.
If I feel ill I will double my labor.
If I feel fear I will plunge ahead.
If I feel inferior I will wear new garments.
If I feel uncertain I will raise my voice.
If I feel poverty I will think of wealth to come.
If I feel incompetent I will think of past success.
If I feel insignificant I will remember my goals.
Today I will be the master of my emotions.
A few weeks ago, one of the senior managers
in my group told me about a very difficult critique
session he'd had with one of his women employees. He
had hired her, with great expectations of an outstanding
performance. Instead, she had not adjusted well to
her new job, and her performance was lackluster. An
appraisal and perhaps a "caring confrontation"
were in order.
When he told her she was not doing the job well enough,
she began to cry. She knew, she said, she was
letting him down, and her own disappointment in herself
embarrassed her. Thus she cried.
"What did you do?" I asked.
"What could I do? I felt terrible. I cried
too," he said, and I couldn't help thinking about the
big-time management consultant and his box of Kleenex.
In my view, that manager demonstrated two things: He
cared enough about the work that he was willing to
confront someone he had a special interest in, and he
cared enough about her to be hurt that she was upset.
But let me make something clear: I'm not talking
about management for and by the wimps. In fact, I am
talking about the most difficult management there is, a
management without emotional hiding places.
You just can no longer be the tough guy, and you also
can't come on as the impassive, ice-water-in-the-veins
"cool head." On the other hand, the kindly
parent who listens-and-understands- but-does-nothing
approach also won't work. No, in every situation, you must
lead with your real self, because if you're going to be on
the leading edge of management, you sometimes must be on
the emotional edge as well.
the color of life; we would be drab creatures indeed without them.
But we must control these emotions or they will control us.
-John M. Wilson