They are able because
they think they are
can be no great courage where there is no confidence or assurance,
and half the battle is in the conviction that we can do what we
is that feeling by which the mind embarks
in great and honorable
with a sure hope and trust in itself.
build confidence when I practice a variety of shots - hitting it high
or low, working the ball. A lot of golfers go to the range and just
hit full shots. That doesn't build on-course confidence,
won't always hit full shots out there. My confidence is built on
I can effectively work the ball in any circumstance.
Believe that with your
and your work you are taking part
the more strongly you cultivate
the more will reality
and the world go forth from it.
-Rainer Maria Rilke
|Life is not easy for
any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance
and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe
that we are gifted
for something, and that this thing, at
whatever cost, must be attained. -Marie
Whatever you are by nature, keep to
it; never desert your own line of talent. Be what
nature intended you for, and you will succeed;
anything else and you will be ten thousand times worse
than nothing. -Sydney Smith
is only a person's own fundamental thoughts that have
truth and life in them. For it is these that he or she really
and completely understands. To read the thoughts of others
is like taking the remains of someone else's meal,
like putting on the discarded clothes of a stranger.
|Nobody holds a good opinion of a
who has a low opinion of him or herself.
|If one burdens the
future with one's worries, it cannot grow organically. I
am filled with confidence, not that I shall succeed in
worldly things, but that even when things go badly for me I shall still find life good and worth living.
confidence which we have in ourselves gives birth
of that which we have in others. -La
That, pausing in her flight
Awhile on boughs too slight,
Feels them give way
Beneath her and yet sings,
Knowing that she hath wings.
must do is all that concerns me, not what the people
think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and
intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction
between greatness and meanness. It is the harder, because
you will always find those who think they know what is
your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the
world to live after the world's opinion; it is easy in
solitude to live after our own; but the great person is one who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect
sweetness the independence of solitude.
|Confidence . . . thrives on honesty, on
honor, on the sacredness of obligations,
protection and on unselfish performance. Without
them it cannot live. -Franklin D. Roosevelt
you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can't
accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your
ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.
deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our Light, not our Darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
Actually, who are you NOT to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve
There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that
other people won't feel unsure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
As we let our own Light shine, we unconsciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence
automatically liberates others.
attributed to Nelson Mandela,
who used it in his 1994 inaugural
am somebody. I am me. I like being me.
And I need nobody
to make me somebody. -Louis L'Amour
Every great discovery I ever made,
gambled that the truth was there,
and then I acted in
faith until I could prove its existence.
-Arthur H. Compton
evidence that the higher
the level of
the more likely one will
treat others with
People who do
or no capacity
love others. -Nathaniel Branden
Only the person who has faith in
herself is able to be faithful to others.
Experience tells you
what to do;
confidence allows you to do it.
are always blaming their circumstances for what they are.
The people who get on in this world are they who get up
for the circumstances they want, and, if they
can't find them, make them. -George Bernard Shaw
Rules for Building Self-Confidence
Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.
2. Determine to know the truth about yourself.
3. Distinguish between who you are and what you do.
4. Find something you like to do and do well, then do it
over and over.
5. Replace self-criticism with regular, positive
6. Replace fear of failure with clear pictures of
yourself functioning successfully and happily.
7. Dare to be a little eccentric.
8. Make the best possible peace with your parents.
9. Determine to integrate the body and spirit.
10. Determine to live above neurotic guilt.
11. Cultivate people who help you grow.
12. Refuse to allow rejection to keep you from taking
the initiative with people.
way in which we think of ourselves has everything
do with how our world sees us. -Arlene Raven
up your head! You
were not made for failure, you were made
for victory; go
forward with a joyful confidence in that result sooner
later, and the sooner or later depends mainly on yourself.
|Have you ever
wondered what it would be like to have "perfect"
confidence in yourself and your abilities? Complete
confidence that allowed you to know that
you could do whatever you needed to do? I wonder
that often, for it must be a great feeling.
I'm not that far from it, though,
and I know that one of the greatest strides I've
ever taken in developing confidence in myself has
had to do with accepting two things: I'm
good at what I do well, and there are certain
things that I don't do well at all.
It used to be that I never gave
myself credit for being able to do what I did
well. I would compare myself to others who did
things much better than I, never allowing myself
to admit that they had had a lot more experience
at whatever it was than I had. At times I was
even hyper-critical of myself, a trait that
proved to be nothing but destructive.
But I know now that there are plenty
of things that I do very well. I may not be the
best at what I do, but I am very good at some
particular things, and I give myself credit for
that, and I always try to improve my skills.
I can write, I can build things, I can
develop a website, and I can do those things well.
Those things I can't do well--play the guitar and
sing, for example, I do for fun now, not to try
We live in a culture that overvalues
the concept of excelling. Many people lose
confidence in themselves not because they're not
able to do things well, but because they're not
able to excel. One student of mine once
told me that she didn't have any confidence in
her writing because the papers that she read by
the other students were so much better than hers.
What she didn't realize was that she was sitting
next to one of the best writers I've ever seen in
a college composition course, and she always read
this student's papers first. The student who didn't
have confidence in her writing was also a very
good writer--by far the second-best in the class--but
she had lost confidence because she was comparing
herself to a much better writer.
There's nothing wrong with trying to
excel. But if your best isn't as good as someone
else's, don't allow yourself to lose confidence--either
work harder to reach a new best, or accept that
that's the way things are, as long as you're
giving your all. The line from the "Desiderata"
says it all: "You are a child of the
universe; no less than the trees and the stars,
you have a right to be here." Accepting this
idea as truth should give you all the confidence
As I said earlier, I'm not too far
from complete confidence, and that confidence
comes from knowing my strengths and weaknesses
and accepting them. I also know I'm not in
anything alone--I have friends and family and God
behind me, no matter what I do, and with that
kind of support, why wouldn't I be confident?
|Because of the
self-confidence with which he had spoken, no one could tell
whether what he said was very clever or very
stupid. -Lev Tolstoy, War and Peace
I can't believe that there are any heights that can't be scaled by
a person who knows the secrets of making dreams come true.
This special secret, it seems to me, can be summarized in four Cs.
They are curiosity, confidence, courage, and constancy, and the
greatest of all is confidence. When you believe in a thing,
believe in it all the way, implicitly and
unquestionable. -Walt Disney
|If you have no
confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life.
With confidence, you have won even before you have started.
great discovery I ever made, I gambled that the truth was there,
and then I acted in faith until I could prove its
existence. -Arthur H. Compton
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