Anyone who does anything to
help a child in his or her
life is a hero to me.
have to get children to understand that not only do they have this
incredible uniqueness, but they also have something that sometimes
we forget about. They are also potentiality. They are
much more undiscovered than they are discovered. And there's
the wonder of it. It doesn't matter where they are, they're
only just beginning and the big magical trip of life is digging it
all out and discovering the wonderful you.
the milk is splattered all over the floor and those little eyes
are looking at you for your reaction, remember what really
matters. It takes five minutes to clean up spilled milk; it
takes much longer to clean up a broken
the children the way we accept trees--with gratitude, because they
are a blessing--but do not have expectations or desires. You
donít expect trees to change, you love them as they
are. -Isabel Allende
think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow
them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow
them to experience life on their own terms, allow them to take the
subway. . . let them be better people, let them believe more in
themselves. -C. JoyBell C.
I'm glad there are children around,
for, as much as I hate to say it, I would get incredibly
bored being around adults all the time. Adults seem
rarely to want to play, to want to enjoy themselves, to
want to take chances and discover new things and draw or paint without worrying what people will say about their
art or their abilities. -tom
treat 'adult' as a term of approval, instead of as a merely
descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be
concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it
is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these
things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in
childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy
symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to
carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern
about being adult is a mark of really arrested development.
When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been
ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I
read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish
things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be
very grown up. -C.S. Lewis
A great person
is one who has not lost the child's heart.
teenagers need support from their parents. However, parents
also need to step back and allow their children to learn through
their own experiences, which will add to their inner strength and
help develop vital coping skills so they're better prepared to
tackle whatever life throws their way. Teenagers learn far
more about life from their own actions than they learn from
listening to others. All teens make mistakes, but it's often
the case that the eventual outcome is a positive experience that
leads to self-growth. Teens learn many lessons by tackling
life's challenges on their own, without parental help or
interference. Likewise, the process of fixing their own
mistakes can also be a learning experience for
teens. -Bill Resler, The
Heart of the Team
not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of
Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary
Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples and pears.
Show them how to cry when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.
William Martin The Parent's Tao Te Ching
Ancient Advice for Modern Parents
I hear babies cry
I watch them grow
They'll learn much more than I'll ever know
And I think to myself,
"What a wonderful world."
best compliment to children or
the feeling you
that they have been
to come to
that are right for them,
not they coincide with your own.
I think that the ideals of youth are fine,
and unencumbered; and that the real art of living
consists in keeping alive the conscience and
values we had when we were young. -Rockwell
Children not only have to learn what
learned in school, but also have to learn how
This has to be recognized as a new
problem which is only partly solved.
Oh, what a tangled web
do parents weave
when they think that their children are
naive. -Ogden Nash
It might sound a
paradoxical thing to say --for surely never has a generation of children
occupied more sheer hours of parental time --but the truth is that we
We allowed you a
charade of trivial freedoms in order to avoid making those impositions
on you that are in the end both the training ground and proving ground
for true independence.
We pronounced you
strong when you were still weak in order to avoid
the struggles with you
that would have fed your true strength.
We proclaimed you
sound when you were foolish in order to avoid taking part
in the long,
slow, slogging effort that is the only route to genuine maturity of mind
Thus, it was no
small anomaly of your growing up that while you were
the most indulged
generation, you were also in many ways the most abandoned
to your own
meager devices by those into whose safe-keeping you had been given.
I believe the powers of observation
in numbers of very young children to be
for its closeness and accuracy. Indeed, I think that most
grown people who are remarkable in this respect, may with
be said not to have lost the faculty,
than to have acquired it; the rather,
as I generally
observe such people to retain a certain freshness, and
and capacity of being pleased, which are also
they have preserved from their childhood.
Know you what it is to
be a child? It is to be something very different from
the person of today. It
is to have a spirit yet streaming from the waters of
it is to believe in love, to believe in
loveliness, to believe in belief; it is to be so little
that the elves can reach to whisper in your ear; it is to
turn pumpkins into coaches,
and mice into horses, lowness
into loftiness and nothing into everything,
child has its fairy godmother in its soul.
we had paid no more attention
to our plants than we have
children, we would now be
living in a jungle of weed. -Luther
real joy of life is in its play. Play is anything we do
for the joy and love
of doing it, apart from any profit,
compulsion, or sense of duty. It is the
of life with the feeling of freedom and self-expression. Play is the
of childhood, and its continuation in
later years is the prolongation of youth.
Your friends shall be the tall wind,
The river and the tree;
The sun that laughs and marches,
The swallow and the sea.
Your prayers shall be the murmur
Of grasses in the rain;
The song of wildwood thrushes
That makes God glad again.
And you shall run and wander
And you shall dream and sing
Of brave things and of bright things
Beyond the swallow's wing.
And you shall envy no man,
Nor hurt your heart with sighs,
For I will keep you simple
That God may make you wise.
Fanny Stearns Davis
It is infinitely more useful for a child to
hear a story told by a person than
by computer. Because the greatest part of the learning
experience lies not in the
particular words of the story but in the involvement with
the individual reading it. -Frank Smith
Who of us is mature
enough for offspring before the offspring themselves
The value of marriage is not that adults
produce children but that children produce adults.