If you realize that all things
there is nothing you
will try to hold onto.
the Tao Te Ching
should anyone be afraid of change? What can take place
What can be more pleasing or more suitable to universal Nature?
Can you take your bath without the firewood undergoing a change?
Can you eat, without the food undergoing a change? And can
useful be done without change? Don't you see that for you to
is just the same, and is equally necessary for universal Nature?
We cannot change anything
unless we accept it. -Carl Jung
We have a hunch that it is possible to live a
better, more balanced, and less stressful life,
but many of us firmly believe that we don’t have the time or
energy to make the necessary
changes, even though perhaps just one small change could
significantly reduce our stress levels.
Instead of striving for attainable incremental changes, we
sometimes complain as if our lives
are completely out of our hands!
you can’t change everything all at once, then at least work on
something each day.Become aggressive in your battle with the ego.
You probably don’t need all the things that it wants.You need hope,
discipline, creative expression, love, and serenity—these are
things.Remember, when you are balanced, one stepping stone
will lead you to the next.But you will rarely see the whole journey
or all the answers at once.
Just because everything is different doesn’t
mean anything has changed.
when summer gets perfect—fresh nights, soft sun, casual breezes,
and quietly cooling trees, empty beaches, and free weekends—it
ends.Life is like that too.
Just when we get it right, it starts to change.The job gets easy and we know just how to do it,
and they tell us we’re retired.The children grow up and get reasonable and they leave
just when it’s nice to have them around . . . . That’s life on
the edge of autumn.
And that’s beautiful—if we have the humility for it.
seldom will people give up on themselves. They continue to
have hope because they know they have the potential for change.
They try again--not just to exist, but to bring about those
changes in themselves that will make their lives worth living.
Yet people are very quick to give up on friends, and especially on
their spouses, to declare them hopeless, and to either walk away
or do nothing more than resign themselves to a bad situation.
Change is very
hard, whether it's an individual desire or a culture-wide need.
We prefer the familiar, the known, and we give it value because of
We avoid change. We deny what we know in our
bones. We block experiences, we ignore intuition, we pass by
insight, we avoid transformation. We hold on, afraid to
change a pattern even when we are in pain.
When you feel conflict, pain, tension, fear, or
confusion, this is a change trying to happen. Don't avoid it
or withdraw. Don't turn to busyness or denial. Lean
into the feeling, work on the change, take the risk. It will
give you the fullness you seek. -Jennifer
James, Success Is the Quality of Your Journey
you don't like the way the world is, you change it. You have
an obligation to change it. You just do it one step at a
time. -Marion Wright Edelman
Change is an easy panacea.
It takes character to stay in one place and be happy
there. -Elizabeth Clarke Dunn
our lives can no longer provide us with the growth we desire and
change must take place, we may need to leave safety and
familiarity behind and journey into unknown territory. . . . Even
though conditions may not be pleasant, we sometimes make an effort
to tolerate the increasing discomfort because we're afraid of the
unknown. But if your ship is tied up at the dock, it doesn't
matter how you turn the rudder--that ship isn't going anywhere!
Many times unpleasant conditions in our lives
tell us that we are ready to move on and experience new areas of
our potential. While our fear of the unknown might
temporarily increase our tolerance of an uncomfortable situation,
life's circumstances may likely get thorny enough that we'll be
coaxed into moving on. We can trust life and move ahead into
new experiences with confidence because, in a wonderful way, we
live in a friendly universe--a universe designed to support us and
our activities. -John
Marks Templeton, Worldwide Laws of Life
are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your
brothers, the school, the teachers--but never blame yourself.
It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because
if you wanted to change, you're the one who has got to
change. -Katharine Hepburn, Me: Stories
of My Life
Life is a
series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist
them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality.
Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they
believe we can change things according to our wishes
because that’s the only happy solution we can see.We don’t think of what usually happens and what is also a
don’t change, but by and by our wishes change.
and growth take place when a person has
risked him or herself and dares to become involved
with experimenting with his or her own life.
changes take place in my life, I continue to watch them truly work
for my good—if I can just wait on God to see me through.What makes all
the difference is trust—the understanding that God has a much
than mine even if I don’t understand it.I’m grateful, yet sorry, that I have
had to learn so many lessons by hindsight.
In our instinctive attachments, our fear of
change, and our wish for certainty
and permanence, we may undercut the impermanence which is
our greatest strength, our most fundamental identity.
there is no process. The nature of life is change. All
hope is based on process.
me up and send me where you please." For there I will
retain my spirit, tranquil and content, as long as it can feel and
in harmony with its own nature. Is a change of place enough
for my soul to become unhappy and worn, for me to become
depressed, humbled, cowering, and afraid? Can you discover
any reasons for this?
are they who learn to bear
what they cannot change. -J.C.F.
We need changes from the duties and the cares of
our accustomed everyday life.
They are necessary for healthy, normal living.We need occasionally to be away
from our friends, our relatives, from the members of our immediate
Such changes are good for us; they are good for them.We appreciate them better,
they us, when we are away from them for a period, or they us.
is the end result of all true learning. Change involves three things:
First, a dissatisfaction with self--a felt void or need; second, a
to change--to fill the void or need; and third, a conscious
to the process of growth and change--the willful act of
the change; Doing Something. -Leo
If one changes internally,
one should not continue to live with the same objects. They
reflect one's mind and psyche of yesterday. I throw away what has
no dynamic, living use. I keep nothing to remind me of
of time, deterioration, loss, shriveling.
people most need now is to apply their conversion skills to those
things that are essential for their survival.They need to convert facts
into logic, free will into purpose, conscience into decision.They need
to convert historical experience into a design for a sane world.
been said that one reason people eventually stop growing and
is they become less willing to risk failure by trying new ideas or
Change can be difficult and uncomfortable.But if our ambitions are only
to avoid the discomforts of life, we could soon find we have very
little life at all. God wants us to have the most joyful, fulfilling life
possible, and sometimes
that requires stepping out into the unknown.Is there a new experience or idea
you’ve been hesitant to pursue?You’ll never know until you try.
For the greater part of human activity is designed to make permanent those experiences and joys which are only lovable because they are changing.
Music is a delight because of its rhythm and flow. Yet the moment you arrest the flow and prolong a note or chord beyond its time, the rhythm is destroyed.
Because life is likewise a flowing process, change and death are its necessary parts.
To work for their exclusion is to work against life.
-Alan Watts, The Wisdom of Insecurity